Long distance love survival guide

Survival guide Build common goals- when you don't live together you need some things talk about. Call on your friends but don't expect them to fully understand- they are good for wine and pizza, they love you but expecting them to understand how you feel is asking too much. Take control of your thoughts- you're in this relationship because you want to be. Own your decision so you don't feel defeated. Have a pity party for a day or two and then stop, shake it off and look ahead. You're already two days closer to when you see them again. Ask your partner questions- what was the best part of your day and what was the worst part. If you can only talk once a month the best/worst question is also a good one. If you're living in the house where you were living together- change it up! Keep it the way you want to. Play the music you love that they may not like because you can! I love the fact that when my husband is away all the decorative cushions stay exactly the way I like them! Find these perks. If you're lonely consider getting a flat mate. It adds another dimension to your independent world. Pick your moments: you wouldn't raise an important issue whilst on the train if you were going to see them when you got home. This same rule applies. If you need to raise something important make sure they're in a private space with time to discuss the issue just like you would if they were with you (I hope). Send selfies of you doing the normal things like drinking a cup of tea or cooking dinner in your PJ's. They want to see you just they way you are usually at home not all dolled up all the time. Keep it real! Don't count the days unless you personally find that helpful. Sometimes it can make it seem overwhelming! Just chip away one day at a time.